When Sorry Doesn’t Come 😶💔
Some apologies never arrive.
Others show up, but… fall flat.
They circle the wound without touching it. Or worse — they come wrapped in guilt, self-justification, or vague regret that leaves you even more confused.
So what do we do then?
When the apology doesn’t come…
Or when it does, but doesn’t meet you where it hurts?
Let’s talk about it.
The Truth About Forgiveness 🕊️
Forgiveness isn’t about moral superiority. It’s not about taking the high road, or spiritually bypassing your pain just to be “the bigger person.”
Forgiveness — real, healing forgiveness — is about setting yourself free.
It’s not something you force.
It’s something you choose — when you’re ready.
So if you’re not ready yet?
That’s okay.
There is no timer ⏲️ on healing.
When Apologies Fall Short 🙅♀️
Not all apologies are created equal.
Some are meant to clear the other person’s conscience — not to make amends.
Some acknowledge they feel bad, without acknowledging how you were hurt.
Some try to wipe the slate clean… without doing the work to clean it.
You may find yourself longing:
I just want them to see what they did
I just want them to understand the pain they caused
That’s not about needing an apology.
That’s about wanting to be seen.
Closure Without Completion ✨
If the apology didn’t meet you — or never came at all — can you finish the sentence?
In your heart, you can say:
💬 I see what happened. It hurt. And I deserved better. And even if they can’t say it, I can.
💬 I release what was left behind. Not because it didn’t matter — but because I matter more.
You don’t have to wait for someone else to validate your experience before you honour it yourself.
Closure doesn’t always need a conclusion.
Sometimes, it’s a soft, steady decision:
🕯️ This is where I stop carrying what’s not mine.
What Real Repair Looks Like 🛠️
A true apology carries these powerful truths:
It sees the real impact.
“I understand how my actions hurt you — not just in the moment, but how they landed in your heart.”
It’s not self-serving.
“I’m not saying sorry to feel better. I’m saying it because you deserve better.”
It holds space for your response.
“Whatever emotions come up — your disappointment, your anger — I’m here. I don’t expect instant forgiveness. I just want to show up fully.”
It commits to repair.
“If there’s a way I can help rebuild trust, I want to try — not just today, but going forward.”
If you didn’t receive that?
You’re not wrong to feel what you feel.
But here’s the next step…
Regaining Your Power 🔥
Here’s the truth that might sting, but also liberate:
🚫 People don’t need to understand your pain for you to heal
🚫 You don’t need a perfect apology to move forward
🚫 You are not defined by how someone else failed to show up
And you, my dear, have the right to expect:
🌱 Mutual respect
🌱 Mutual care
🌱 Mutual understanding
That’s not too much. That’s the minimum.
Let them reveal who they are.
Then choose, bravely, to become someone who heals — not by pretending it didn’t hurt, but by refusing to carry what’s not yours.
🌿 Your Turn
Have you been waiting for an apology — or hoping one would mean more?
What would it look like to give yourself the closure you’ve been seeking?
Just whisper this to your own heart:
✨ I deserved better. I honour that now. And I’m walking forward lighter ✨