What Are You Trying to Avoid By Going Back? 🔁💭

So the thought creeps in:

“What if she comes back?”

“What if we get back together?”

But before you answer that…

Ask this:

Do you actually want her back — or are you trying to avoid something else?

Because here’s what you already know:

🧠 She lives in her own idealistic world.

🧱 She never fully accepted who you are.

🌫 She never built anything solid for the future — because there was no shared future to begin with.

You’ve seen the truth.

You’ve sat with it.

You know it’s not aligned.

So… why are you still lingering at the door?

Could it be:

🤯 The exhaustion of starting over with someone new?

🕳 The fear of being alone again — of facing the blank page?

🎭 The illusion that the process of “rekindling” is easier than the slow, uncertain path of real connection?

Because if you’re treating connection like a shortcut to emotional security —

you’ll end up settling for familiarity, not compatibility.

You’re not chasing her.

You’re avoiding something else.

And that matters.

Because what’s the cost of walking your life with someone who’s not aligned?

⚠️ Peace, freedom, clarity.

⚠️ The version of you that can grow freely.

⚠️ The space where the right connection could’ve arrived.

So next time the thought comes back —

“what if she texts me again…”

try responding with:

What am I afraid to face… if she doesn’t?