Stop Shrinking to Fit a Room You’ve Outgrown 📏🚪

I used to think the kind thing to do was to blend in.

Say yes.

Be agreeable.

Shrink a little, dim a little — just to stay connected.

But the more I get to know myself, the more I see:

Some people never truly saw me.

They just liked how easy I was to digest.

Choose connections that support your growth — not just your comfort zone.

That changes everything.

Because I’m starting to notice the patterns —

The subtle ways people don’t respect who I really am.

And the truth is, I used to let it slide.

But that version of me? I’ve outgrown them too.

Whether it’s:

🧍🏽‍♀️ Dimming your opinions to avoid tension

🎭 Laughing at jokes that low-key cut too deep

👗 Dressing, acting, or speaking to “match the room”

…you’re not doing anyone a favour by abandoning yourself.

That’s not kindness.

That’s survival mode.

And you don’t owe anyone that anymore.

You’re allowed to draw a line.

You’re allowed to stop explaining.

You’re allowed to stop fitting into concepts that don’t belong to you.

So here’s your reframe:

What’s the simplest thing you can do today

to stop saying yes to what no longer fits?